Sweet! 8 Reasons Why Social Media Is Like Chocolate

 
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It’s around this time of year when a girl’s mind turns to chocolate. Chocolate in all shapes, sizes, flavours and concoctions. Where would we be without the divine confection?

How would we surreptitiously reward ourselves mid-afternoon after a hard slog in the office?

No matter what the problem is, the answer is usually chocolate.

It’s as big a part of my life as …. well, as social media is. And when I think about it the two have more in common than you’d first think:

  • Addiction, baby! OK, so maybe chocolate immediately grabs the senses quicker than social media, but once you’ve got into the tweeting habit it too can be all-consuming. How many times have I read “right, must stop tweeting and start working!” in someone’s Twitter stream? Does that sound at all familiar?
  • A language we all speak. Nothing says “I want to be your friend” quite like a retweet swiftly accompanied by a chocolate eclair.
  • They’re both here to stay. It’s fair to say that a certain place beginning with ‘H’ is likely to freeze over before we see the demise of either. I guess the only difference is that our social networks are going to continue to evolve, whereas I’m reasonably you can’t improve on chocolate perfection (but I’m happy to be proved otherwise).
  • Everybody wants a piece! You’ll attract a lot of attention once you’re in possession of an impressive and sizeable example of either. The bigger, the better, the more enticing.
  • The lovers and the haters. Admittedly, I don’t know too many people who hate chocolate. I know a few who purport to hate social media, but that’s usually because they don’t understand it. I do, on the other hand, know many people who love both because when I tweet that I’m daydreaming of chocolate cakes I’m invariably overwhelmed with responses containing lots of ooo’s and aaah’s. If you fall for one, it seems you’ll end up being enticed by the other.
  • It’s good to share. There’s a reason why your mother taught you this from an early age. It can score you more brownie points than you’d believe possible. Did someone mention brownies?!
  • Secret pleasures. When you become a little bit too fond of a substance or pastime, it can incur a raised eyebrow or two from loved ones when you display the odd spot of overindulgence. In time, however, it’s possible to learn control and discipline. Or so I’m told. Do you have a dark secret? A dark chocolate secret?
  • There’s good and there’s bad. Quality. It means different things to different people. Some will only ever go for the very best ingredients or the very best content, and yet sometimes something is better than nothing at all. A little restraint and consideration usually results in greater satisfaction all round, I find.

All this talk of ‘chocolat’ has put me in mind of setting out on a hunt for the biggest Easter Egg known to man. I may be some time … but don’t worry.

I’ll let you know on Twitter when I’ve found it.


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How can I be old when I’m still growing up? (a birthday post)

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Today I reached a milestone in terms of birthdays; the biggest one yet, I’d say. And I feel compelled to write a little blog post about it because we women don’t tend to ‘do’ age very well, and that’s always confused me somewhat.

Over the last few months as I’ve approached this landmark, several ‘friends’ (not all, admittedly) have gasped in horror, offered their commiserations and stated out loud that they were dreading reaching this wonderful age themselves.

I find it perplexing that others find getting older so depressing, and here are a few reasons why:

• My grandma died when she was 42, leaving a husband and two daughters aged 17 and 7 (my mum). She never got to see what old age looked like.
• I’ve made lots and lots of mistakes! Life has a way of teaching you lessons along the way. The day you start paying attention to them is the day your life starts to improve.
• I eat a good diet, full of fresh vegetables, green tea and water. The old adage “you are what you eat” is an old adage for a reason; put crap in and you get crap out. Be good to your body and it will be good to you.
• I’m emotionally stronger than I have ever been. Face up to the fact that bad things happen in life and find your inner resources to deal with them. The good news is that the bad times don’t last forever (a bit like childbirth .. ha!)
• Kindness reaps dividends. It doesn’t take much to show someone kindness, and it does have a habit of working its way back to you. You have to take my word on this. Try it and see if I’m not right!
• Being happy is a lot more fun than the alternatives. I honestly do think we make a conscious decision to have a smile on our face or not (in most instances). ‘Happy’ looks better on me.
• I’ve learned to say goodbye- there are times when you have to turn and walk away from people. It’s not easy if you practice the kindness as mentioned, but there is never an excuse for deceit, downright nastiness or abuse. Dig into that emotional strength and walk away.
• My body is in better shape today than it’s ever been- thanks to yoga, a bit of fair-weather running (I don’t do rain, snow or ice!) and a good diet, I’m a UK size 8.
• I now know and appreciate quality. This truly has come with age for me, but I can sniff the most expensive scent out in a perfume house at twenty paces. No problem.
• My achievements have taken some time! I don’t always do things the easy way ;)
• I’ve learned to sleep on it. Everything looks better after a good nights sleep. Everything.
• I care less these days about what people think of me- of course we all want to be adored, but the truth is that there will be people in life who will take against you for no good reason. It says more about them than you, every time.
• Perfection I’m not- I try my best and I fail sometimes. But I’ll get up and try again.
• I’m grateful. I learned a long time ago to stop obsessing about what I didn’t have and appreciate everything I did have.
• My first fifty years have been a blast! I had to keep my age until the end so that you carried on reading ;)

So in conclusion let me just say this:

You can let your age define you, or refine you. It’s your choice.

Now please excuse me …. I have to go and rock my fifties :)


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Getting healthy in 2013: my top five tips

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When it comes to getting healthy I’m all about the whole “self” … that’s to say that there’s no point being your perfect body shape if, deep down, you’re as miserable as sin. “Healthy” for me is a combination of attitude of mind, energy, positive focus and looking your best.

I made a great start by implementing a few changes to my lifestyle this year, and although I’m far from done yet, I’m a fair way down the road to being the best I can. And, as with all change, the start was fired with enthusiasm, the mid point became a challenge but the latter stages have resulted in so much mental and physical improvement that I’d be a fool to myself if I didn’t continue.

So if you need a helping hand, here are my top five tips to a better you in 2013 … This is going to be your year for getting healthy!

    • Go Alkaline! Trust me, when it comes to health, vitality and energy there is no room for crash-dieting (take this from someone who has put her body through way too much of this in previous years). Six months ago I stumbled across the acid-alkaline diet and was so impressed by what I read in terms of the significant health benefits (it can dramatically lower the risk of many cancers, minor ailments are cured and energy levels soar) that I decided to give it a go. Not only did I feel so much better in myself, but my fitness improved due to my increased energy and also …. I went down two dress sizes from a UK size 12 to a size 8 (US 8 to a 4). I urge you to give this a go … it’s healthy, there’s no calorie-counting and you will never be hungry. Find out more about going alkaline.
    • Get Your Yoga On! I have to be honest here, I am no fan of exercise. Of course I love the way I feel after I’ve run a few miles but I could give you a list of hundreds of things I’d rather be doing. But time is marching on and my body isn’t so forgiving these days if I don’t fire up the old engine on a regular basis. I have a back problem that has plagued me for a number of years and as I’ve got older, it’s made itself known a few too many times. One thing has solved this for me: yoga. I practice a little every day (10-15 minutes maximum because that’s all my schedule will allow most days) and I feel 100% better for it. Personally I love Tara Stiles’ workouts because they’re quick and fun …
    • Smile! Yes, I know … Some days it isn’t that easy. Without a doubt there will be days (for some ladies they may well be hormone-related …) when it’s just not possible to raise the corners of your gorgeous mouth. But the truth is that on most days you can, and another truth is this: grumpy people may be amusing for a while but that soon wears off. People want to be around happy people; those who want to be around misery will only ever be miserable themselves. Which category would you rather fit into? Here’s a little help for girls who battle with their hormones (like me!)
    • Accept That People Can Be Strange. This year I’ve made a few significant leaps forward both personally (my husband and I reunited again after a long separation) and professionally. We moved to a beautiful old house. There were days when I literally felt I was going to burst with happiness. And for the most part people were happy for us, but not everyone. One or two that I had previously regarded as friends became increasingly hostile to the point of being quite vicious. There seemed to be a little clique of haters developing, and I spent many hours wondering what I had done wrong. The conclusion I came to was this: I hadn’t done anything wrong at all, it was them that had the problem. So, if anyone takes issue with you over your success or progress then rest assured it isn’t you, it’s them. They’re strange.
    • If Life Gives You Lemons … Warm some water, squeeze the juice into it and drink first thing in the morning. Reputedly it cleanses your system after sleep and helps keep you svelte and gorgeous. I swear by it; I juice half a lemon daily, increasing it to a whole lemon in the wintertime for the extra vitamin C (so far this year I’ve been cold and flu-free!) And it will work beautifully with your new alkaline diet regime (although lemons are acid they have an alkalizing effect once ingested) ;)

 

I really hope this helps you make some positive changes during the coming. Getting healthy can only ever mean one thing: improvement.

Here’s to you, and an amazing 2013!!

Debs x

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Making a statement with accessories …

 
Hello, and welcome to a fabulous Friday at the Lipstick Club!

Today I’m delighted to welcome Karen Lyndon Lewis Keenan from Ellemee to give us a few tips on how to accessorise stylishly …

“Call me Mrs Magpie; I just love stuff, shoes, bags, cuffs, scarves, bangles, watches, and sparkly diamonds – getting the picture? Thing is I don’t have a one particular look so I often use accessories to change the whole feel of an outfit. Accessories are just fabulous; it doesn’t matter what shape or size you are you can always find on trend pieces and most of the time you can find them at a price range to suit your budget.   Okay, it might be a while before I get that Mulberry bag, but for now I’ll settle for one that sort of resembles it.

I often use my accessories to make a statement.  I am definitely in the camp of less is more.  Too many accessories will make you stand out, that’s for sure, but I’m thinking more in a Desperately Seeking Susan style.  Now Madonna fans don’t beat me up she’s playing character here I am not having a go at her own personal styling.  If this is your look and you want to channel that eighties grunge vibe here is an image that sums up what you need to purchase.  Yes, lace gloves are compulsory.

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As I am not really a huge fan of lace gloves we’ll move on quickly.

As I said earlier I like to use accessories to make a statement and to do this I tend to choose one area to emphasize.  For example I might have a black dress black shoes, black watch and a vibrant lime bag.  Here the bag is used as a colour pop but also because everything else is one tone the bag really stands out.  Now if I had lime heels on as well, that would look too coordinated.  For me it would look like I had put too much thought into it all rather than just grabbed that lovely leather bag as I left the house.  The image below sums up the idea well.  Extra brownie points as she has also kept her jewellery subtle by choosing a brushed metal bangle and ring that picks out one colour from the bag.

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The other way to achieve this colour pop idea is to use your shoes for the same effect.  Lets go back to the black dress, black watch and pick a black clutch – this time I might wear fuchsia heels, just like the beautiful Reese Witherspoon

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The heels don’t have to be fuchsia, they could be leopard print, turquoise, red, whatever stands out and works for you.   One of my favourite things is wearing dramatic shoes, especially if I’m having one of those days where I feel like my feet are probably my best feature.

While we are talking about colour I love the stacked bracelet look with jeans, or cut offs, it’s a proper summer look.  Especially good for festivals where you do not want to be wearing that gold tiffany bangle that you got for your eighteenth birthday.   Just wear just a plain coloured t-shirt or vest for that very girly laidback look.

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If colour isn’t your thing then use statement jewellery.  Metallic cuffs, large bangles, necklaces are great for this but getting the balance right is essential.  Please do not wear huge earrings, a statement necklace, cuffs and bling rings all at the same time.  That would not look glamorous!

Instead pick carefully, choose something that states who you are or what you want to project about yourself.  The fierce silver bracelet below stands out brilliantly, and is coordinated with a couple of rings, one is quite light and the other ties in with the mix of metals on her arm.  Nothing else is required in the accessories department.  She has stated that her style is different and edgy.  All that with just one bracelet.  Brilliant!

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I have small wrist so bangles like that always dwarf my wrists.   If you suffer from this too then look for cuffs, they can be squeezed to wrap round my arm so the fit is good and they look fantastic.   If you have the money Tiffany’s have an amazing cuff at the moment that fits over the bone in your wrist.  It literally looks like metal has flowed over your arm.  Be aware that the style means that you have to buy either a left one or a right one.

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I was very lucky to get one as a present from my lovely husband.  When we were in the shop the lovely sales assistant thought my metallic, wrapped wire torque was solid gold.  It was £13.00 in the sale at Oasis her face was a picture when I let it slip.  I mentioned this as it demonstrates that accessories can be very effective if used in the right way.

Talking about using accessories in the right way a quick tip on cuffs, especially if they are metallic. ONLY wear one, never, and I mean never, wear one on each wrist.

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You can visit Karen’s site at ellemee.com and follow her on Twitter here


Facebook Friday: time for a change!

 
I have to admit I’ve grown a little fonder of Facebook in recent weeks.

When I caught the Twitter bug around three years ago I lost interest almost entirely … For me Twitter was more immediate, more dynamic and altogether more interesting. But over the last couple of months I’ve found myself liking and sharing more on FB than I have in a long while. Still can’t get my groove on with Google+ though …. Another story.

And this morning this post on Pinterest (love love love Pinterest!) got me thinking I should sort out my Facebook header image -sorry!- my Facebook “cover”.

Here’s what I came up with:

I referred a few weeks ago how I have a tendency to get stuck in a rut, or more to the point, lose sight of what tools I have available at my disposal. In this instance it was Photoshop. It’s really quite bizarre how only a few weeks of not using something I can completely forget about it … Now I know where my son gets it from!

By using layers and clipping masks I put this collection of a few of my favourite old and new pics together. It was also a great excuse to go through my photo archive ;)

Have a wonderful weekend, and I’ll see you next week!

Debs x

 

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